--- title: Perspectives | taking the conversation further | relationship description: relationship | Beyond Teal Perspectives --- [![Beyond Teal Logo](https://www.beyondteal.com/hs-fs/hubfs/images/Beyond_Teal_Logo_sRGB_300x150.png?width=300&name=Beyond_Teal_Logo_sRGB_300x150.png "Beyond Teal Logo")](https://www.beyondteal.com/) - [Home](https://www.beyondteal.com/) - [Blog: Perspectives](https://www.beyondteal.com/blog) - [What is Beyond Teal?](https://www.beyondteal.com/what-is-beyond-teal) - [About Beyond Teal](https://www.beyondteal.com/about-beyond-teal) - [Services](https://www.beyondteal.com/services) - [Bruce Peters](https://www.beyondteal.com/team-bios) - [Beyond Teal Facilitative Leadership Program Description](https://www.beyondteal.com/facilitative-leadership-in-person-program-description) - [Beyond Teal FLP Registration](https://www.beyondteal.com/flp-in-person-registration) - [Beyond Teal FLP Reviews](https://www.beyondteal.com/flp-reviews) - [Executive Leadership Guidance](https://www.beyondteal.com/executive-leadership-guidance) - [Beyond Way™ Guide](https://www.beyondteal.com/beyond-way-guide) - [Beyond Way™ Within](https://www.beyondteal.com/beyond-way-within) - [The Story of U](https://www.beyondteal.com/the-story-of-u) - [Contact Us](https://www.beyondteal.com/contact) - [Beyond Teal Resources](https://www.beyondteal.com/beyond-teal-resources) TRANSFORM Life at Work # ![](https://www.beyondteal.com/hs-fs/hubfs/Blog_Title_Graphic.png?width=470&height=93&name=Blog_Title_Graphic.png) ## [Are You There Yet? Advice to Those Who Have Arrived](https://www.beyondteal.com/blog/are-you-there-yet-advice-to-those-who-have-arrived) Posted by [Bruce Peters](https://www.beyondteal.com/blog/author/bruce-peters) [![](https://www.beyondteal.com/hubfs/bruce_blog_pic_3.jpg)](https://www.beyondteal.com/blog/are-you-there-yet-advice-to-those-who-have-arrived) You did it. The “it,” of course, is your personal definition of success. You started the company. Got the salary. Landed the job. Grew the organization. Expanded the territory. Got married. Had children. Built the dream house. Ran the marathon. Traveled the world. Went skydiving. [Read More](https://www.beyondteal.com/blog/are-you-there-yet-advice-to-those-who-have-arrived) Topics: [Leadership](https://www.beyondteal.com/blog/topic/leadership), [leader](https://www.beyondteal.com/blog/topic/leader), [relationship](https://www.beyondteal.com/blog/topic/relationship), [The Third Act](https://www.beyondteal.com/blog/topic/the-third-act) ## [Resume' versus Eulogy-what does matter?](https://www.beyondteal.com/blog/resume-versus-eulogy-what-does-matter) Posted by [Bruce Peters](https://www.beyondteal.com/blog/author/bruce-peters) [![](https://www.beyondteal.com/hubfs/Brooks_Quote.png)](https://www.beyondteal.com/blog/resume-versus-eulogy-what-does-matter) In our last post about David Brooks' [**The** ](http://info.wceohq-radio.org/blog/the-moral-bucket-list-becoming-a-virtuoso-leader)**[Moral Bucket List](http://info.wceohq-radio.org/blog/the-moral-bucket-list-becoming-a-virtuoso-leader), **we featured a quote about eulogy versus success. This quote, in particular, resonated with CEOs and executives alike,in our community. No matter what level in a company the person holds, everyone has their version of dealing with this issue. We all have jobs, families, commitments, and typically don't want to let any one of our commitments go, and in doing so, we create the "What Matters?" dilemma.  This parallels some of the work we do In our Facilitative Leadership Program. Part of our study is the work of Peter Blocks, **The Answer to How is Yes-*Acting On What Matters***.  [Read More](https://www.beyondteal.com/blog/resume-versus-eulogy-what-does-matter) Topics: [Leadership](https://www.beyondteal.com/blog/topic/leadership), [FLP](https://www.beyondteal.com/blog/topic/flp), [leader](https://www.beyondteal.com/blog/topic/leader), [relationship](https://www.beyondteal.com/blog/topic/relationship), [Learning Organizations](https://www.beyondteal.com/blog/topic/learning-organizations) ## [The Moral Bucket List: Becoming a Virtuoso Leader](https://www.beyondteal.com/blog/the-moral-bucket-list-becoming-a-virtuoso-leader) Posted by [Bruce Peters](https://www.beyondteal.com/blog/author/bruce-peters) [![](https://www.beyondteal.com/hs-fs/hub/405722/file-2553335055.jpg)](https://www.beyondteal.com/blog/the-moral-bucket-list-becoming-a-virtuoso-leader) The post that best espouses the kind of person I've always wanted to be, as well as the kind of people I love to hang out with, was written by David Brooks in the April 11th, *The New York Times* Sunday Review**,** called [**The Moral Bucket List**](http://www.nytimes.com/2015/04/12/opinion/sunday/david-brooks-the-moral-bucket-list.html?_r=0). David Brooks is an Op-Ed columnist and the author of “The Road to Character,” from which the post is adapted. The moral bucket list requires an on-going process, to become the kind of virtuoso Brooks describes. This list parallels what it takes to be a facilitative leader as well as a good human. Becoming a great leader has all the elements of becoming a great person.  It too is an ongoing process to become a virtuoso. *"It occurred to me that there were two sets of virtues, the résumé virtues and the eulogy virtues. The résumé virtues are the skills you bring to the marketplace. The eulogy virtues are the ones that are talked about at your funeral — whether you were kind, brave, honest or faithful. 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