Resume' versus Eulogy-what does matter?

Posted by Bruce Peters

In our last post about David Brooks' The Moral Bucket Listwe featured a quote about eulogy versus success.

This quote, in particular, resonated with CEOs and executives alike,in our community. No matter what level in a company the person holds, everyone has their version of dealing with this issue.

We all have jobs, families, commitments, and typically don't want to let any one of our commitments go, and in doing so, we create the "What Matters?" dilemma. 

This parallels some of the work we do In our Facilitative Leadership Program. Part of our study is the work of Peter Blocks, The Answer to How is Yes-Acting On What Matters

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Topics: Leadership, FLP, leader, relationship, Learning Organizations

The Moral Bucket List: Becoming a Virtuoso Leader

Posted by Bruce Peters

The post that best espouses the kind of person I've always wanted to be, as well as the kind of people I love to hang out with, was written by David Brooks in the April 11th, The New York Times Sunday Review, called The Moral Bucket ListDavid Brooks is an Op-Ed columnist and the author of “The Road to Character,” from which the post is adapted.

The moral bucket list requires an on-going process, to become the kind of virtuoso Brooks describes. This list parallels what it takes to be a facilitative leader as well as a good human. Becoming a great leader has all the elements of becoming a great person.  It too is an ongoing process to become a virtuoso.


"It occurred to me that there were two sets of virtues, the résumé virtues and the eulogy virtues. The résumé virtues are the skills you bring to the marketplace. The eulogy virtues are the ones that are talked about at your funeral — whether you were kind, brave, honest or faithful. Were you capable of deep love?" David Brooks

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Topics: Leadership, FLP, leader, relationship

What's on your scorecard?

Posted by Bruce Peters

In our last blog post, we asked the question, what would happen to you, to your family, team or organization, if you kept score of "promises made and promises kept"?  Our CEO and Key Executive groups, have been doing this for awhile now and have come up with some unique ways of scoring - almost as unique as each of them. How pretty it is, doesn't matter. The only thing that matters is your commitment to it. 

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Topics: Leadership, FLP, Promises Made,, Promises Kept

How To Build a Promises Based Company and Culture

Posted by Bruce Peters

Now that we are in the third week of January, it's fitting to revisit Promises Made, Promises Kept.  I did this 12 minute TEDx presentation on the topic, and wanted to share it with you now.

Three weeks into the new year, are you living up to your commitments? Are you keeping score? 

How often have you heard someone say, or even a business, promise that we "do what we say we will do."  Nary once have I ever heard say, "we don't keep our commitments."  Working with business leaders lead me to the observation that far fewer promises were being kept than made. Indeed there may even be a bit of a charade going on that the promisor and promisee (sorry terminology left over from my lawyer days creeps in periodically) never had clarity in the first place about what the promise was.

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Topics: FLP

To become a better leader in 2015-Stop It!

Posted by Bruce Peters

In thinking about 2015 goals, and reviewing all the well-wishing emails at the end of 2014, I ran across an article published in the Harvard Business Review by Sarah Green and Gretchen Gavett and this Bob Newhart skit, "Stop It." If you haven't seen it, take a look.  

So, what are the top 5 things that are not serving you well, that you will stop doing in 2015? Let me know. I'm compiling a list and will publish my findings later in the year.

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Topics: Leadership, FLP

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